How to Confess

How to Confess to the Priest

The priest will often begin with the Sign of the Cross or a greeting and blessing.

Preparation

Before going to confession, take some time to prepare. Begin with prayer, and reflect on your life since your last confession. How have you – in your thoughts, words, and actions – neglected to live Christ’s commands to “love the Lord, your God, with all of your soul, and with all your mind.” and to “love your neighbor as yourself” (Mt. 22:37,39)? Click here for some helpful questions you can ask yourself prior to going to Confession.

Greeting

The priest will welcome you; he may say a short blessing or read a Scripture passage.

The Sign of the Cross

Together, you and the priest will make the Sign of the Cross, You may then begin your confession with these or similar words: “Bless me, Father, for I have sinned. It has been [ give days, months, or years] since my last confession.

Confession

Confess all your sins to the priest. If you are unsure what to say, ask the priest for help. When you are finished, conclude with these or similar words: “I am sorry for these and all of my sins.”

Penance

The priest will propose an act of penance. The penance might be a prayer, a work of mercy, or an act of charity. He might also counsel you on how to better live a Christian life.

Act of Contrition

After the priest has conferred your penance, pray an Act of Contrition, expressing sorrow for your sins and resolving to sin no more. 

A suggested Act of Contrition is:

My God,

I am sorry for my sins with all my heart.

In choosing to do wrong and failing to do good,

I have sinned against you whom I should love above all things.

I firmly intend, with your help, to do penance, to sin no more,

and to avoid whatever leads me to sin.

Our Savior Jesus Christ suffered and died for us.

In his name, my God, have mercy. 

However, there are different versions of the Act of Contrition that are also acceptable to say.

Absolution

The priest will extend his hands over your heads and pronounce the words of absolution. You respond, “Amen.”

Praise

The priest will usually praise the mercy of God and will invite you to do the same. For example, the priest may say, “Give thanks to the Lord for he is good.” and your response would be, “His mercy endures for ever”.

Dismissal

The priest will conclude the sacrament, often saying, “Go in peace.”

If it has been a while since your last confession, remember, “Do not fear”. The priest will help guide you.